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We will always be in this moment, the one where we won’t know where to go from here. It’s all uncharted territory. Off the map, out of the box, life opens before us. I am not going to do anything anymore that will make me sick. That is my promise to myself today.
Being sick is comprised of swallowing the truth rather than speaking it. Hiding other people’s secrets. Not admitting where we went wrong. Just failing to say exactly what’s happening. That’s a great place to start.
You can make any situation better by adding the words “right now.” All states are temporary. And you can reassure others in your life that you will be there for them always, but maybe not right now.
I got on a tangent there. What I really wanted to say is this:
God will lead you to the promised Land, but it will be through the trees. You will not be able to see where you are going. You will lose the trail, because it’s not a logical one. But then you’ll find it again.
We will always be surrounded by struggle, our failure is believing our people (whoever that means) had risen above it. No, no matter who you are, there will always be struggles, mistakes. The whole “surviving, not thriving” thing. That is some crap that sounds good. We all be just surviving, even if we think we rich enough or smart enough to have conquered everything already.
Don’t matter no how. We will “give our problems to God”, though unfortunately what that means is that the tasks are still ours to do. It’s just that the “problem-element” is given to God. Bad news guys, God never said we didn’t have to do the work when we give him the problem.
But, if the tasks are ours, then the outcome is God’s. And so we can be assured it comes out in a positive and personally-profitable way if we put it in his hands.
Easier said that done. Because the “thoughts” of this thing we have to do really being a problem still enter our minds, and the “feelings” of there being a problem still enter our bodies. So we have to keep giving it to God, over and over and over.
So, I give the “thoughts of problems” to God, and I give the “feelings of problems” to God. Which is great, because I don’t want to have these! God can take them!
That feels SO much better for me.
XO,
Your spiritual re-visor, Whitney

The best thing about having my own website is that I can write anything I want and give it its place in the digital universe alongside the *complete bs* that is out there on some topics.
In 2004 I purchased an inn in Kennebunkport Maine together with my then-husband. We had previously managed a similarly-sized inn on Nantucket for one year.

Lark Hotels was formed in 2012 as a marketing and advertising strategy for three New-England inns: the Captain Fairfield Inn (Kennebunkport; 9 rooms), the Veranda House (Nantucket; 18 rooms), and the Attwater (Newport; 12 rooms). All three of these inns were owned wholly or in part by myself and Robert Blood.

The first ideation of Lark Hotels was created by Robert Blood, Leigh Blood, Dawn Hagin, Adam Policky, and Rachel Reider. Robert and Leigh were hotel operators, Dawn and Adam were branding, marketing, and website design, and Rachel was interior design.

In 2013, Lark Hotels began operating as a hotel management company, managing the properties owned by Robert and Leigh Blood as well as other properties with outside owners. Lark Hotels formed as an LLC owned by Robert (co-owned with Leigh through marriage), Dawn (co-owned with Adam through marriage) and Rachel.
While we deliberated the job titles we wanted to use, how the company really functioned was this:

Lark Hotels was, and remains today, a very design-driven brand. In other words, the image of the brand and the hotels is very important. The vision of the company as put forth by Dawn and Rob, was that nearly all aspects of the hotels were to be controlled by Lark. While this may be common in the hospitality world, the owners of the small, personal hotels (which would really much more appropriately be called “inns”, as none exceeded the size of 20 rooms) wanted to have a say in things like furniture choices and beverage selections (for properties with liquor licenses). Lark design is quite unique, not more uniform and standard as in, say, a Marriott or a Hilton, and therefore, there was a lot of fodder for strong opinions and differences of those opinions between ownership and Lark, at the properties which were not owned by Robert and Leigh. Those conflicts continue to be a problem for Lark today, as Lark rarely feels that owners have worthwhile ideas and instead consider themselves “experts” in the field (see any number of press articles on this). However, most owners do not consider their inn ownership to be simply a financial investment, but rather an investment in something with meaning for them - whether it be a project that brings joy, a place in their local business community, or a spot to welcome their family and friends as well as other guests. They want to have a say in the aesthetic and the service being offered. Lark Hotels has always prided themselves on being a boutique, customized management company - being “about people” and being able to be nimble enough to offer different solutions for different properties. I do not see how this has been successfully achieved, and in my opinion it remains a nice idea. How frustrating for everyone that Lark Hotels cannot find more ways to work together with ownership to serve everyone’s goals in a more balanced way.
In 2016, Lark Hotels started to take on a drastically darker tone within the company. In 2015, eight new hotels were added, which put a tremendous strain on the central team. People were stretched thin, overworked, and underappreciated. There was a lot of turnover, and little understanding that this might be the time to be a little more generous with salaries to keep people on for a longer tenure.
In mid 2015, Leigh expressed strong feelings to Rob that the company was taking on too much, and this was not sustainable for her. Rob said that they only had to keep doing it a few more years. But this had been said before, and because of that and other lies from the past, Leigh told Rob that she did not trust him anymore. By 2016, Leigh decided to leave Lark Hotels. She spent the remainder of 2016 working truly unbearable hours to clean up a very messy state of affairs that had accumulated on the bookkeeping side of operations. She had already hired a financial consultant, and with his help, migrated all of the books to a new accounting system that was hospitality-specific, and hired and trained a controller and a staff of bookkeepers and accountants to support the dramatic increase in bookkeeping for the larger number of Lark-managed properties. By the fall of 2016, Leigh announced that she would be leaving Lark Hotels, and that she would take time to transition oversight of the financial department to the new controller. She spent the better part of 2017 doing that, and in the fall of 2017 she quietly handed over the reins fully to the Controller.
In 2017, amidst a host of issues amongst the Lark Hotels ownership team, including Rob’s making unilateral decisions where the others felt they should have had the opportunity to weigh in on some of these decisions, Lark hired a Boston firm to do a business appraisal of Lark. This was completed over the summer of 2017, and once a value was reached, Rob bought out Rachel, Dawn and Leigh (the buyout with Leigh happened concurrently with their divorce, which was in part caused by the lack of respect and consideration for her not only to his business partners, but also as his wife.)
As of the end of 2017, Leigh, Dawn, and Adam were no longer owners, investors, employees, or participants in Lark Hotels. Leigh retained her individual ownership interest in the hotels that she had co-owned with Rob. From that point on, the actions of Lark Hotels the management company are not in any way a reflection of the values she wanted the company to have and the principles she wanted the company to be associated with, namely with regards to effective communication throughout the organization and respect for everyone in the company.
Ok so you go along in life, and probably sometime maybe in your teens, maybe 20s, maybe later, you realize that you’ve made a “mistake” in life. Examples of mistakes here could be like:
You may, as I have, felt kind of bad about these decisions. You may have hurt someone else or you may have hurt yourself. You may have wasted time, or you may have lost an opportunity, or you may have lost someone or something that you valued. You may have even built your life or your identity around something that at some point you realize really is not for you!
What is to be made out of this??? I understand that it’s impossible to avoid making mistakes, and also that it’s not great to have regrets. A lot of people say things like “Live and learn” or “Everything happens for a reason”… maybe in an effort to make peace with these sorts of mistakes.
Is this oversimplifying? What about the things that came as a result of your “mistakes”? You’re probably living with a whole host of results of a “mistake”, especially if it changed your life in a major way, some of which you may be grateful for, and some of which don‘t work, don’t fit, or you don’t like.
What’s the balance of acceptance and being real about things that didn’t go right or feel right? Of working on changing things with these realizations and going forward anyway?
I want to know!! What do you think about this? What do you conclude about the “mistakes” you’ve made, and what have you done afterwards?

Two computers, an iPad, two phones, two notebooks, a pad of sticky notes, pens, glass of water.
Four hours of paperwork (what is the equivalent of paperwork if it’s online?? There should be a term for this) including paying bills, making arrangements for my kid to go to a nationals meet for track, going through my mom’s email and phone to find contacts to invite to her memorial service, filling out intake forms for medical appointments and summer camp, texting with landscaper, booking flights for our summer trip.
Not saying this is a hardship… I have a great life and we are lucky with the opportunities we have. At the same time, this is what it takes to run our life. This isn’t a paying job, this is LIFE.
I wanna look around and see my own life reflected back at me


Song link below.
[note, i am looking into how to pay artists something for the songs I post on my site. Stay tuned]
What fun staying home and limin’ can be. Just adding to posts here in celebration of the past year and also building something new in the process.
In searching YouTube for Lorde’s song for the link above I also found this interview. LORDEONCOLBERT
Someone commented that she is “such a good representation of one of us making it in the spotlight.” Hell yeah couldn’t have resonated more. I’M ONE OF THE WEIRDOS

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